The experience of affirmation of one’s worth or integral value oftentimes resulting from experiences of praise or external validation. But even in the absence of external validation a feeling of real importance can eventually be sustained when one cultivates self-awareness and realizes the import of all others and the self. This kind of self-awareness can only be attained through the practice of personal empathy and a conscious effort to allow and observe one’s natural cycle of emotion. When we feel our feelings, heed their messages and distill their wisdom, we become something truly important to the self and for the greater good of the whole. See Natural Cycle of Emotion in Iphelia: Awakening the Gift of Feeling.